So rifling through the MP3s on my laptop, I discovered that the “You and Me” song from the Romeo & Juliet soundtrack is one of those songs I can no longer listen to without triggering an emotional malestrom — a distinction it shares, rather absurdly, with “Barbie Girl.” (No, not because of any impossibly proportioned blonde women in my life — a friend who died too young used to sing it on long car rides.) I think “growing up” is mainly a process of developing new and different kinds of mental or emotional damage.